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After bringing your baby home from the hospital, your relationship with your partner is guaranteed to change. A new baby means sleepless nights, more stress, and, let’s be honest, less intimacy. How can you be expected to hop into bed with your husband when you have remnants of throw up in your hair and are still carrying around the extra baby weight?

Making time for each other is still a vital part of keeping your relationship floating. Before the baby is born you should have a discussion about making a regular date night every week. Make a list of potential babysitters that you trust and give them a call to see if they’re willing to help out. Stick to the date night unless one of you is sick. You’re going to be tired but that can’t be an excuse. And ladies, date nights do not equal sex. Kissing your partner in the back of a movie theater without a baby crying in the background may make you feel like a teenager again. Try it.

Lean on each other during times of stress and ask for help when you need it. A lot of new moms feel that they have to do everything on their own, or they aren’t a good mother. Not true. You can read all the books on parenting, buy a lifetime supply of diapers, and interview every parent you know, but it won’t completely prepare you for bringing home a new addition to the family. Remember that you need time to adjust.

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